Thursday, September 11, 2014

Simone de Beauvoir versus Anne Dubreuilh: a reflection


She never had a child of her own. But when she embodied herself in Anne, Anne had a girl.

Simone de Beauvoir was the life-long partner of Jean Paul Sartre, but not the only woman in his life. She broke the traditions of her times and defined her life with her own hands, they never got married.

She wrote 'The Mandarins' which critics say represents their post-war situation and life. It puts you in the dilemma of paris and its intellects post-war.

Back to Anne Dubreuilh, said to be Simone herself, in 'The Mandarins', had a daughter. In the mother-daughter relationship, she poured all her fears and nightmares. I think she created this tense relationship where a mother never knew how to love her daughter, how to show genuine maternal care and love, how to break the walls instead of always digging a deeper abyss between them. The daughter always rebelling against any form of love because of an inherent feeling of not-deserving.

I felt that Beauvoir mirrored my fears, or it can be a self-projection of the novel. I, too, am scared to be a reason for ruining the life of another, especially if in good will. So I took the safer of the 2 options. 

Maybe it's selfishness, but sometimes selfishness is a virtue, is altruism in disguise as Ayn Rand puts it in the title of her book 'The virtue of selfishness'.


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Monday, September 1, 2014

Surprise !!!!

We all love surprises, a birthday surprise party, a surprise gift or a surprise coming back of a traveling cousin. 
I love surprises and I have always wished I ll get a real surprise birthday party without knowing about before hand ;)

In fact, life is so full of different types of surprises, good or bad. However, to me the most intriguing type of surprises is people. 

Some people just surprise you with the best possible surprise, 'trusting you, and seeing through you'. Years may pass with someone in your life but suddenly on a day, a normal routinely day, you just see that someone as someone else.

You discover the real human. We are all human with strengths and weaknesses. We are full of love and indifference, of good and evil. We are so naive to think that everyone is one dimensional, no one is one dimensional. What we all fail to see is that each one of us has a multidimensional self. We can be polite  and gentle  but yet capable of what the stereotype says is bad.

We have to just stop judging one another and accepting our weaknesses as human. What we really differ in is our control over our good or evil dimensions. 

Back to human surprises, the best thing is when someone you know, reminds you of our nature as humans. When someone you know , someone who hides behind a one dimensional poster, breaks it down and shows you the human behind it. The human behind the pose, the human who was afraid to trust and come out.

Then you feel blessed, you feel trusted, you feel surprised the best surprise ever.